Making Peace With Your Life –
You know what peace feels like. We’re in the season where we sing about it, think about it, send greeting cards wishing it, and often long for it in the middle of distress. We see so little of it in the extreme busy-ness of life and in our world. Each of our lives has brought us to a particular set of circumstances that just are. We can certainly always change things within those circumstances, but we inevitably need to start with what is right here, right now.
Some people call that acceptance. True acceptance is a beautiful thing. Some people think they’re accepting when they have only become resigned to the circumstances they find themselves in. If you become resigned to circumstances because there seems to be no alternative you are often left with some underlying sadness or anger.
How do you come to that place of true acceptance? I would offer the thought that perhaps it’s time to make peace with your life. Even the beautiful Serenity Prayer indicates that there is a step leading to acceptance. In it we pray, “God Grant Me The Serenity To Accept The Things I Cannot Change”. It would appear that serenity, or peacefulness, has to come first.
Let’s start there.
How do you make peace with your life? You can begin by giving it your full attention. Look at the journey you have been on since the moment you were born, and celebrate every success and every achievement. Give yourself credit for all those times you dealt with things, and overcame things, and persevered and survived. Honor the fact that human life is a challenge in varying degrees for everyone. Forgive yourself for the times you felt you failed. Then, most importantly of all – send love to it. If you can, mentally take a step back from your life and become the observer of what has gone before. Picture your whole life as a beautiful stained glass window. Every glorious shining beautiful moment is a color, outlined by the challenges of the darker metal that defines it and holds it in place.
If you are in a time of joy in your life, love the beauty of it. If you are in a time where the metal is being poured to define it, just watch. To borrow from Doreen Virtue, ‘don’t give up 5 minutes before the miracle’. We are in the age of miracles, but you need to be open to them. Living in peace with what is, and what can be, holds the door to those miracles wide open.
You are a work in progress. You are that beautiful stained glass window, and you are not yet complete. God can bring you the serenity and the peacefulness, but not without your cooperation. Love is the key. I offer it to you today as my Christmas gift to you.